Don’t Call Me Shy – A Child’s Perspective on Being Labeled
A Child’s Perspective on Being Labeled
This is a great article for those that have been labeled as “shy”. As a child, teenager and at times as an adult, I’ve been labeled as shy. In my early 20’s, someone put a new perspective on it for me. They said I wasn’t shy, but that I was cautious…I liked that because it was true. Before I open myself up, I need to be comfortable with my surroundings. It turns out my daughter is the same way.
I have a rather shy child. In public she is perfectly behaved and absolutely mortified when too much attention is called to her. At home, however, she is my most active and devious little devil. Funny, smart, and the heart of our family. Yet, it never fails — when she gets a new coach, a new teacher, or simply just meets anyone new, she closes up into her shell and disappears. And that’s fine for her, until they say, “oh, (gentle pause) are you shy?”
I really wish people would think about what they are doing when they say this to a child who actually is shy. Nearly all have good intentions and are just trying to let the child know that they accept them, but that is not how the child sees it. In a world where everyone wants to be politically correct and not create labels for people, why is it ok to label a child as shy and call them out on it? Really. What do you think a shy child wants least at that moment? Attention. What are you doing? Making them the center of attention. This is especially traumatic for them when they are pre-school and school-age.
Here are a few things to think about before you confront a shy child… from a child’s perspective:
1. Please don’t call me shy… my name is (fill in the blank)
2. I don’t know you yet…. why are you calling me names? Why do I have to entertain you?
3. I like to take my time to get to know people. You are a stranger. I’m pretty sure my parents told me not to talk to strangers.
4. Is there something wrong with me? You sure are making a big deal about me talking. Why? Maybe I am just not ready to talk yet. (or better yet… maybe you are creepy and I am not comfortable with you)
5. Please don’t make me talk again in front of everyone. It’s pretty obvious I don’t like it. I will talk when I am ready. I am listening, I follow the rules and I hear you — I just get embarrassed easy. Please leave me be.
Every year, I go to my child’s new school teacher and discreetly tell them my kid is shy. That’s okay, it is a description of who she is… but I also remind the teacher that I am not fond of labeling a child and calling attention to what makes them different. I prefer we never say that in front of the child. So, if you don’t have a shy child and still don’t understand why you shouldn’t label them publicly, please think twice before you ask a shy child if they are shy. You wouldn’t ask a mentally challenged person if they were “special”, would you? I hope not.
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Alicia Silverstone’s The Kind Diet
The Kind Diet: A Simple Guide to Feeling Great, Losing Weight, and Saving the Planet
Well, so far so good. My flirting days are working out great and I’m already starting to feel great. Of course, my body detoxifying itself is causing some major gas and sweating, that just doesn’t smell all that pretty….but my energy levels are already up:)
A couple of days ago I made Alicia Silverstone’s Quinoa with Basil and Pine nuts and her Cauliflower Steaks for dinner. We pretty much all enjoyed them. My daughter could not make up her mind on the Quinoa. She would start eating, then decide to stop. My husband who is a meat eater and is tired of brown rice, loved the change and taste of Quinoa. I enjoyed the leftovers for breakfast the next morning and lunch after that.
These are two dishes you want to make plenty of cause I can gaurantee you will enjoy the leftovers.
Happy Eating!
The Kind Diet: A Simple Guide to Feeling Great, Losing Weight, and Saving the Planet
Alicia Silverstone’s The Kind Diet
The Kind Diet: A Simple Guide to Feeling Great, Losing Weight, and Saving the Planet
I started finding healthy cooking VERY boring and I didn’t know what more to do with veggies and rice. My husband loves meat and as my daughter is getting older (although still eating well compared to other children) is starting to get pickier. Or perhaps my daughter is not getting picky, but my boredom of cooking was showing through what I was making. Either way, deciding what to make for dinner was getting stressful.
I didn’t realize that my boredom would end when I saw Alicia on The View and I purchased her new book The Kind Diet.
This book is GREAT! In one book, she goes through all the reasons why not to eat certain foods, for example, meat. I would always hear different views as to why not to and she covers them ALL in one book. From the impact on your health to the impact on the environment. When you decide you want to become healthier, she includes not only a step by step program in getting their, but she also includes incredible recipes.
I’ve decided to start “flirting” with becoming a vegan….so far I’m lovin’ it. She really takes you step by step to eating healthy. I love how she includes healthy deserts so you don’t feel deprived as well.
I haven’t had a chance to bake one of her deserts, but I did make her Lentil Stew…OMG! The entire family LOVED it. I’ve had five bowls since yesterday’s dinner.
When you are ready to start taking your health to the next level, this book is for your perfect start. Or if you are looking for some great new healthy recipes for you and your family, this is also a great book for you.
I’ll keep you posted on mine and my families success.
Happy Eating!
The Kind Diet: A Simple Guide to Feeling Great, Losing Weight, and Saving the Planet
Warning – Swine Flu H1N1 Vaccine Is Not Safe
I came across this great article that I have forwarded to all my friends and family that I would like to share with you.
Check out this video on You Tube.
By Dr Joseph Mercola, MD
This year it is more important that you protect your children and loved ones from the flu vaccines than influenza itself. In his article published on LewRockwell.com, Bill Sardi details 18 reasons why you should not vaccinate your children against the flu this season. Here are nine of them:
- The swine flu is simply another flu. It is not unusually deadly.
- This is the first time both seasonal and pandemic flu vaccines will be administered. Both seasonal flu and swine flu vaccines will require two inoculations. This is because single inoculations have failed to produce sufficient antibodies. This is an admission that prior flu vaccines were virtually useless. Can you trust them this time?
- Adjuvants are added to vaccines to boost production of antibodies but may trigger autoimmune reactions. Some adjuvants are mercury (thimerosal), aluminum and squalene. Why would you sign a consent form for your children to be injected with mercury, which is even more brain-toxic than lead?
- This is the first year mock vaccines have been used to gain FDA approval. The vaccines that have been tested are not the same vaccines your children will be given.
- Over-vaccination is a common practice now in America. American children are subjected to 29 vaccines by the age of two. Meanwhile, veterinarians have backed off of repeat vaccination in dogs because of observed side effects.
- Modern medicine has no explanation for autism, despite its continued rise in prevalence. Yet autism is not reported among Amish children who go unvaccinated.
- Researchers are warning that over-use of the flu vaccine and anti-flu drugs like Tamiflu and Relenza can apply genetic pressure on flu viruses and then they are more likely to mutate into a more deadly strain.
- Most seasonal influenza A (H1N1) virus strains tested from the United States and other countries are now resistant to Tamiflu (oseltamivir). Tamiflu has become a nearly worthless drug against seasonal flu.
- Public health officials are irresponsible in their omission of any ways to strengthen immunity against the flu. No options outside of problematic vaccines and anti-flu drugs are offered, despite the fact there is strong evidence that vitamins C and D activate the immune system and the trace mineral selenium prevents the worst form of the disease.
How to Protect Yourself without Drugs and Vaccinations
There will always be threats of flu pandemics, real or created, and potentially toxic vaccines will continue to be peddled as the solution until enough people realize there’s a better, safer, saner way.
You can break free of the drug-solution trap right now by following these natural health principles. I have not caught a flu in over two decades, and you can avoid it too, without getting vaccinated, by following these simple guidelines, which will keep your immune system in optimal working order so that you’re far less likely to acquire the infection to begin with.
Optimize your vitamin D levels
As I’ve previously reported, optimizing your vitamin D levels is one of the absolute best strategies for avoiding infections of ALL kinds, and vitamin D deficiency is likely the TRUE culprit behind the seasonality of the flu — not the flu virus itself.
This is probably the single most important and least expensive action you can take.
If you are coming down with flu like symptoms and have not been on vitamin D you can take doses of 50,000 units a day for three days to treat the acute infection. Some researchers like Dr. Cannell, believe the dose could even be as high as 1,000 units per pound of body weight for three days.
Avoid sugar and processed foods
Sugar decreases the function of your immune system almost immediately, and as you likely know, a strong immune system is key to fighting off viruses and other illness. Be aware that sugar is present in foods you may not suspect, like ketchup and fruit juice.
Get enough rest
Just like it becomes harder for you to get your daily tasks done if you’re tired, if your body is overly fatigued it will be harder for it to fight the flu.
Have effective tools to address your stress
We all face some stress every day, but if stress becomes overwhelming then your body will be less able to fight off the flu and other illness. If you feel that stress is taking a toll on your health, consider using an energy psychology tool such as Meridian Tapping Techniques, which is remarkably effective in relieving stress associated with all kinds of events, from work to family to trauma.
Exercise
When you exercise, you increase your circulation and your blood flow throughout your body. The components of your immune system are also better circulated, which means your immune system has a better chance of finding an illness before it spreads. You can review my exercise guidelines for some great tips on how to get started.
Take a good source of omega-3 fats like krill oil
Increase your intake of healthy and essential fats like the omega-3 found in krill oil, which is crucial for maintaining health. It is also vitally important to avoid damaged omega-6 oils like trans fats found in most processed foods, as it will seriously damage your immune response.
Wash your hands
Washing your hands will decrease your likelihood of spreading a virus to your nose, mouth or other people. Be sure you don’t use antibacterial soap for this — antibacterial soaps are completely unnecessary, and they cause far more harm than good. Instead, identify a simple chemical-free soap that you can switch your family to.
Eat garlic regularly
Garlic works like a broad-spectrum antibiotic against bacteria, virus, and protozoa in the body. And unlike with antibiotics, no resistance can be built up so it is an absolutely safe product to use. However, if you are allergic or don’t enjoy garlic it would be best to avoid as it will likely cause more harm than good.
Avoid hospitals and vaccines
In this particular case, I’d also recommend you stay away from hospitals unless you’re having an emergency, as hospitals are prime breeding grounds for infections of all kinds, and could be one of the likeliest places you could be exposed to flu bugs of all kinds.
As a side note, please beware that 21 different pediatric Tylenol products have been recently recalled due to the possibility of bacterial contamination. So, if your child comes down with cold or flu symptoms, make sure you do not give him or her a potentially contaminated product.
Better yet, help your child recover using more traditional cold and flu remedies, such as, hydrogen peroxide solution in the ear, zinc lozenges, high quality raw honey, or a homemade cough syrup.
Source: www.mercola.com
Holistic Moms Network – Mississauga Chapter Meeting
Yesterday was my first meeting with the Holistic Moms Network, Mississauga chapter and what a treat it was.
It was great getting out of the house and talking with other Moms, but even more incredible talking about raising children holistically. Most often I feel like I’m swimming up stream trying to raise my daughter in a healthy environment. I finally felt that someone understood how I felt about raising my child.
I was also able to take home with me many great tips and resources to look into. The knowledge I gained from just one meeting was priceless.
If you are looking to raise your children in a healthy environment, I strongly suggest joining the Holistic Moms Network group in your area. By coming together in our own communities we can bring more awareness and the feeling of swimming up stream would be something of the past.
